Children at the birth?

The arrival of a little brother or sister is a very significant event in a child’s life. Ever since childbirth has become a medicalized and “hidden” event for the vast majority of people, the possibility of being able to witness or support the arrival of a brother or sister is practically non existent. The baby […]

You are invited….to my birth

When for example, we are invited to a dinner party at someone else´s house, consciously or unconsciously, we expect to hear from the host on where we are to sit, if we need to bring anything, if we can help in any way, etc. There are many invisibly established social codes about how a host […]

Obstetric Violence in the Age of Plastics

Someone gave my youngest son one of those individual banana cases, in bright yellow plastic. My immediate thought was “it sure is going to be hard to find bananas that will fit perfectly inside this thing”. The banana in question would have to be the exact length, width, have the exact curvature as the little […]

An enviable figure

On a regular day, after leaving my youngest at school, I came upon a magazine cover. A TV personality holds her new born baby, and states she is eager to return to the gym in a few days’ time. According to the magazine, she has an enviable figure. And perhaps because I am surrounded by […]

The only Doula in the Room

One of the first things I realized when I became a Doula was that DOULAS ARE NOT ALWAYS WELCOME. It´s worth repeating: Doulas are not always welcome. This came as a surprise and a bit of a shock. Doulas are associated with gentle birth and with guarding a woman´s space as she births. Surely that […]